This video is about a young girl named Daow who was suffered from the final-stage leukimia. She have a conflict with her boyfriend. The conflict started when she rejected her boyfriend with the aggresive voice.Conflict is a situation where two or more individuals or groups try to pursue goals or ambitions which they believe they cannot share (Howard, 2003). Interpersonal and small group conflict occurs when people are interdependent ; what one person does has an effect on the other person (Devito, 2006). Other than that, it occurs when people see each other as interfering wih the attainment of their own goals (Hocker & Wilmot, 1985 ; Folger, Poole, & Stutman, 1997). From my opinion, the conflict is anything that First cause of this conflict is when Daow started to know that she have leukimia disease final stage.
She was very dumbfounded and couldn’t say more. She just crying when she knew that she could only lived for only 60 days more. This is what we called latent conflict/prelude event. Latent conflict/prelude event is a period when the potential for conflict exists, but it has not yet developed (Paul, 1998). It exists whenever individuals, groups, organizations, or nations have differences that bother one or the other, but those differences are not great enough to cause one side to act to alter the situation. It is under the surface, not expressed openly. It is conflict waiting to happen.
From the video, we could see that Daow had suffered with leukemia disease and she found out that as the differences between her and the man that she loved. She was very depressed because she thought that she can’t afford to give happiness to that man in a long period time. Thus, the latent conflict had just happened but the conflict itself did not developed yet. The second causes of the conflict is when Daow threw the cup that he gives her to the wall. While crying , she yelled to that man and chased him out from that room. She also ordered him to leave her alone.In this situation, her emotion reached the peak because she could not stand to see the man that she love.
She knew that she was dying then she doesn’t want him to look her in that pitiful gaze. This is the scene which triggered the conflict. According to Conflict Research Consortium, a triggering event is an event that initiates a conflict. It can be minor–a simple statement that is misinterpreted, or a careless mistake. Daow didn’t mean to chase him out or yelled to that man.
She was just being so depressed with her current condition. However, he misinterpreted the message and thought that she doesn’t love him anymore.Fortunately, he didn’t responsed badly but he keep calm and just leave the room. This scene portrayed that he was praying at the temple to calm himself.
He was very upset after Daow rejected her. He was never give up but trying to find a resolution of their conflict. Therefore, he went to the temple to manage his emotion first. This is when the process of resolution of conflict started.
He is able to manage her problem by following the process of resolution of conflict. Once a person have the conflict, they should be able to resolve it by manage their emotion first.After that, they have to manage their problem by looking at what causes the problem.
They cannot simply put the blame to that other party but the problem itself. Back to the video, what I could see is he never put the blame on Daow’s behavior but he focused on the problem that they had. He works to understand what it is about the other person’s behavior that is getting under her skin. I firmly believe that he do the great desicion. He knows how to understand other’s feelings. Finally, he came back to Daow with a ring and proposed her.
Daow accepted him and they hugged each other.He was trying hard and loved her so much that he couldn’t let her go. Daow loves him too but she just being too emotional with her condition before this.
This is the stage when new understanding of the terms of relationship is reached. At the peacebuilding/new equilibrium stage, outside actors can play an important role in monitoring the agreement and demobilization efforts. In addition, the construction of civil society may be necessary, something third parties may be able to provide assistance on. Peacebuilding efforts work to repair damaged relationships with the long-term goal of reconciling former opponents (Brahm, 2003).
Thus, society acceptance play an important role in build a new spirit of Daow who suffered with leukimia disease. This included the acceptance of another parties which is the man who loved Daow which then affected on the new equlibrium to be reached. REFLECTION Throughout this task, what I had learned is whenever we have a conflict, we must analyse it first. Do not misunderstood with the other party that you have a conflict with. Probably the conflict itself causes because of miscommunication between the both sides. Before this I usually become emotional when I had a problem with my study or with my friends.I do not think about what should I do but keep blaming myself for what had just happened.
After I study conflict, resolution of conflict and phases of conflict I realized that every conflict can be resolve if we are able to manage it. In the phases of conflict, I learned new concept which is ‘triggering event’. Triggering event is an event that initiates a conflict. It could be words or actions.
I reflect myself on what I had done before this. I should be more careful in what I am saying or in my actions because it could triggered a conflict. If I was in Daow’s shoes, probably I do not be able to manage my emotion.I would do the same thing like what she did . I was kind of person who cannot accept the reality that I faced. In the contrary, if I was in him shoes I will calm myself first. If I know better my partner, then why should I blame her/him for what he/she had done? I must look deeper and understand her/him feeling first before make any assumptions. I feel very fortunate to learn about this topic because it teach me a lot in managing my emotion and problem.
I want to improve myself in communication with people around me. I would be more careful with my tone of voice and the usage of words.Living in this IPG, I have many friends from different regions. We have different language as well.
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