Adolescents are often misunderstood. This is attributed to the hormones raging as they struggle to become adults and fit right into society. Sad to say though, instead of understanding them, adults, most especially parents scowl and frown upon them and treat them as menace of society. In the case of Connie who was torn between growing out of her childhood and growing into a woman, her mother failed to give her the understanding and love that should have been due her.
Hence, it is only but natural that Connie’s family be blamed for her demise. Had her family been good and attentive to her and the phase she was in, she would not have fallen to her fate.1.
For Connie’s mother, she was just another teenager who thinks only of herself and is very vain. As Connie had the habit of looking at herself and admiring herself in the mirror, her mother would often scold her about it.Example: Her mother, who noticed everything and knew everything and who hadn’t much reason any longer to look at her own face, always scolded Connie about it. “Stop gawking at yourself.
Who are you? You think you’re so pretty?” she would say. Connie would raise her eyebrows at these familiar old complaints and look right through her mother, into a shadowy vision of herself as she was right at that moment: she knew she was pretty and that was everything.2. Connie is often compared to her sister, June, who was admittedly very different from her.
June was very plain and mousy while Connie was very pretty and so full of life. Nonetheless, all she ever heard from her mother and aunts were praises of how good and June was. For an adolescent who needs attention and appreciation, this is a very big blow that she sometimes wished her mother dead. And yet, instead of turning to other things, Connie manifested her rebellion in a different way. Since June wanted to go to places, Connie did the same thing with her friends. They would drive three miles to a nearby shopping plaza and walk around the stores or watch a movie.However, such aversion, one that her mother only approved of, is the one thing that led her to Arnold Friend who took away such vitality and life in her.
Example. Connie had long dark blond hair that drew anyone’s eye to it and she wore part of it pulled up on her head and puffed out and the rest of it she let fall down her back.3.
Although Connie was only fifteen, she can already draw the opposite sex towards her and she knows that she does. Such prettiness in Connie drew the attention of the opposite sex and unfortunately, the attention of Arnold Friend. Sadly though, she didn’t receive any guidance from her father on how to relate with them, what are the dangers of being with them and what to expect when she is with them.Example. Their father was away at work most of the time and when he came home he wanted supper and he read the newspaper at supper and after supper he went to bed. He didn’t bother talking much to them, but around his bent head Connie’s mother kept picking at her until Connie wished her mother was dead and she herself was dead and it was all over.
“She makes me want to throw up sometimes,” she complained to her friends.If her father had only spent some time with her, she would have known what to expect from boys and differentiate who really are boys and who aren’t. Furthermore, if we take into consideration how Connie’s family left her alone on a Sunday afternoon, this would indeed sound very illogical and irrational. For them to take along June who was of age and leave behind Connie who was a minor can only be considered as negligence on their part. Responsible parents would not have allowed their minor and adolescent child to be left behind.One Sunday Connie got up at eleven—none of them bothered with church—and washed her hair so that it could dry all day long in the sun. Her parents and sister were going to a barbecue at an aunt’s house and Connie said no, she wasn’t interested, rolling her eyes to let her mother know just what she thought of it.
“Stay home alone then,” her mother said sharply. Connie sat out back in a lawn chair and watched them drive away, her father quiet and bald, hunched around so that he could back the car out, her mother with a look that was still angry and not at all softened through the windshield, and in the back seat poor old June, all dressed up as if she didn’t know what a barbecue was, with all the running yelling kids and the fliesCONCLUSION. And so, because nobody was with Connie that day, Arnold Friend had all the chance in the world to take advantage and do whatever he liked to Connie.
Therefore, it is but logical to put the blame on Connie’s family. Despite all her actions of being vindictive and vain, she could have avoided her fate if her family only guided her. Her family should have taught her the realities of life both good and bad so she could have known what to expect in the real world – a world full of evil and predators, a world where the likes of Arnold Friend prowls.